1) Mars and Venus on a Date

During my relationship seminars, single women often come up to me and describe in great detail what they thought was a wonderful date. The question that follows is almost always the same. Every one of these women says, “I can’t understand why it didn’t work out”. If everything went so well, each wonders, why didn’t he want to pursue the relationship? To most women, men are still a mystery. Their questions often reveal a complete misunderstanding and misinterpretation of men.

Women ask:
How do I attract the right guy for me?
Why do men talk so much about themselves?
Why don’t men call back?
Why don’t men commit?
How do you get a man to open up?
Why do I have to do everything to make this relationship work?
Everything is great, but my partner doesn’t want to get married and I do. What can I do?
Why do I keep getting involved with the same kind of guy?

A woman’s questions tend to revolve around one issue: How do I secure a loving, lasting relationship? Women want to make sure they can get what they need in a relationship. Men, on the other hand, have different questions. Their questions focus on making sure they are successful in their relationships but also reveal a misunderstanding and misinterpretation of women.

Men ask:
How do I know what a woman wants?
Why are women so indirect about things?
Why do we start arguing about the littlest things?
Why can’t women just say what she means?
How do I know if she is the one?
Why does she always want to talk about the relationship?
Things are fine now, so why the boat and get married?
Why do women ask so many questions?

Although men’s and women’s questions reflect different orientations towards dating, they do have two things in commons: Men and women want their relationships to be loving, and they definitely don’t understand each other. We feel powerless at times to get what we want in our relationships. 

It might seem hopeless, but it is not. Once men and women learn how they approach dating and relationships differently, then we have the necessary information and insight to begin finding the answers to our questions. Without a deeper understanding of our differences, it is inevitable that we will continue to misinterpret our dating partners and create unnecessary problems.